The personal diagram that I drew give me a clear understanding of my gender identity, I did know about myself and who I am but I didn’t know that my personalities were related to my gender identity, I thought they were divide but in reality they were just one.
In my diagram the bleu represents my masculine side and the pink my feminine side and I embraced both equality inside me.
Like few women in my in my circle and that I know, I don’t need a man to make me feel pretty or loved, that is the reason I consider myself independent, I open doors for my boyfriend we lift the same weigh at the gym, we share the restaurant bills together mostly, I fix the window when it is broken and I do the plumbing etc.. even if he refuses sometimes, as a rebel like in my draft, I told him this is gender stereotype. As a curious person it is really fun for me to learn new things even society assign a lot of things to “manly things”. Society teach us that men needs to provide in the household contrary to women, but I love being in control of my financial life and future and that’s one the main reason I decide to become a CPA and not otherwise.
Like most woman I am shy like society want us woman to be, I put Yahweh AKA God, family and friends first in my live. I cook for them maybe because I am a foodie too, I clean, I do laundry and the groceries.
If someone see me he or she won’t know that I am agender because maybe I do my make-up, nails and hair like a girly girl so they always assign my gender as femininity but after they get to know me they get confused about my gender because of their lack of knowledge and information about gender identity. Most of them think the woman movement is about more money, education and job opportunities for women but is about to break gender barrier in a society where rich white men established norms, rules, class, a pyramid to put down people who are different from them.
At the end of the diagram I addition a pink heart and a square blue color to show what I feel inside and really happy with the result color actually I believe that of the purple represents my gender identity.
Hello Lisa,
thank you for sharing your insights with us. I adore the color representation of each shape that speaks for you. In my honest opinion, I felt like you should of highlights the traits you think are more masculine than feminine or vice versa, but other than that lovely diagram.
I love the statement you made as I quote “Like few women in my circle and that I know, I don’t need a man to make me feel pretty or loved, that is the reason I consider myself independent, I open doors for my boyfriend we lift the same weigh at the gym, we share the restaurant bills together mostly, I fix the window when it is broken and I do the plumbing, etc.. even if he refuses sometimes, as a rebel like in my draft, I told him this is a gender stereotype. Society teaches us that men need to provide in the household contrary to women, but I love being in control of my financial life and future”. I COMPLETELY AGREE 100%! Men are always idolized as “the provider”, it shouldn’t be like that. I always have this disagreement with my brother because he always says “Whenever I go on a date with my girlfriend, it’s my responsibility to pay”. my response “why? he goes “because it just is, that’s the way it is”. But it really isn’t, this is society’s depiction telling the young men that they NEED to be the finance providers in every situation when they DO NOT. I’ve always had a mentality similar to yours as an INDEPENDENT WOMAN. I believe everyone works hard for their money and the same we earn we can spend for ourselves or others. Thank you for this statement Lisa, I loved the connection I had with your post.
Hi Lisa ! Thanks for sharing your experiences . I love how you take charge and do the things that society would on expect men to do. You are running through that barrier and owning that our gender should never stop us from being able to support another person or take care of the needs we have . I can relate in being independent and not needing a man to define who i am as a women . Its vital that we all have a sense of contentment in our own identity.