This week’s material tied in with a lot of what I’ve been learning in readings and research for my Human Health and Sexuality course on the ongoing social, philosophical, political and scientific debate regarding gender and trans rights.
Gender is complex, and research is being done all the time that helps us better understand how cultural gender norms and our biology intertwine to define aspects of our gender identity and expression. We are learning there is a much more accurate way of describing gender than binary norms, which is on a spectrum.
In many ways there has been deliberate societal erasure of the natural state of the gender spectrum, which has been more readily recognized in different cultures for centuries, but concepts of social control have relied in some cases on an oversimplification of very narrow and binary gender roles that can exist in many forms on a scale, both in terms of the biological/hormonal structure of an individual, and either separately or in conjunction, the gender identity of the individual in terms of how they fit into these limiting binary terms of Male/Female that we are assigned at birth, and the roles and baggage that come with those expectations.
Our trans and non-binary siblings face so much difficulty in this world, where to exist is to defy this limited and oppressive view of gender, facing pushback from those afraid of parting from the social norms that they are used to, if not comfortable with. It is even more disheartening and gross coming from TERFs, because those unenlightened feminists fail to see outside of their own oppression to see that we are sisters/siblings with our transfems, and all trans folk too, who all suffer oppression from a paternalizing patriarchal binary structure. This discrimination against them is unacceptable, harmful, and unproductive too. When we could accept and talk about our differences and become better for our empathy towards one another, we see how we can work together to dismantle the systems that do us all harm. Especially when cis women hold relative power over trans people, it is abhorrent to further marginalize them rather than extending a hand, an ear, a voice.
Our trans sisters are much like real life sisters, you might not always see eye to eye about each others lived experience, but, we are here to hear and support each other and we have more in common than not. We might face different flavors of oppression, but the unique struggle of cis fems doesn’t have to be untold just because we uplift the oppression specific to our trans sisters. This could be a “yes and” conversation, much in the same way we have been discussing the importance of acknowledging difference in class and race within feminism. To give others who are traditionally silenced a voice doesn’t mean you need to silence yourself, it means you need to share the platform you’ve been hogging, and listen twice as much as you speak, but still speak.
As far as bathrooms and sports are concerned, if we can recognize the jury is still out on what the heck gender even is, can we also begin to rethink why we have sex separation in sports and bathrooms in the first place?
As far as sports are concerned, this scrutiny of trans athletes does more to shine a light on the tradition of scrutiny over women’s bodies as discussed by Chase Strangio in that illuminating podcast, and the fact that gender is not binary. It is on a spectrum which is impacted by many factors. It would be interesting to see sports shift to build some teams in more scientifically measured levels (kinda like wrestling has weight categories) than such a binary men/women divide in the future. After all, differences in hormones, weight and muscle mass can vary wildly within the gender binary, sports have so much more to do with physical structure, muscle mass and density, power generated, and other factors than strictly gender alone.
I think we can benefit from de-mystifying and de-segregating ourselves based solely on gender with more all-gender bathrooms, which I have used many of and liked. Yes, men can assault women in shared bathrooms, but men who will assault women in the bathroom tend not to care so much about the gendered sign on the door, I promise you that, and these men are not confined to bathrooms either. Sexual assault and how our society deals with that should remain a whole other conversation that exists about all spaces, not just bathrooms.
Moreover, trans persons can be and are harassed assaulted in bathrooms. We should be more worried about that very real and all too frequent reality. Most importantly, when you gotta go you gotta go, and it is a cruel and horrible abuse of human rights to deny anyone the right to use of a bathroom they feel safe to use. To say you need to look or dress a certain way to use a certain bathroom is ultimately ridiculous, and makes people feel like they can’t even participate in society at work or school when they have to worry about whether they can use the bathroom while being a human doing their thing in the world. It’s so harmful, and it needs to stop.