Category: DB13

I believe what she was saying is so true and important for individuals to understand.  Every individual should try and be in a healthy relationship. it is necessary and well significant that you both partners make it work by working together as a team, you have my back and I have yours. Both need to care about one another problems and happiness, Their problem is your problem their happiness is yours as well. Numerous relationships out there have filled because when there’s a problem people tend to run away from it by breaking up instead of finding a solution to fix it. It takes a while for a person’s heart to heal from their past relationship and you guys breaking up is damaging both of you guy’s hearts. love is not just a feeling it’s commitment, and above all sacrifice. 

I think what they were talking bout was very interesting and very important. Every person should be in a healthy relationship, whether it’s platonic or romantic, or familial. For romantic it’s important and well helpful that you both work together to make it work and that you both can help form each other no matter how you are feeling. Needs to be someone that cares and loves you unconditionally for you and will be there and support you in every way you could ever think of. There are o many relationships out there that are filled with hurt and negative energy, and with that, a lot of those just end up broken relationships in the sense of it does more damage staying together than it is to break apart. We need some who gonna be there to help us, to help us carry the load if we aren’t strong enough and sees it as no effort or burden. Someone who will help motivate us and keeps us on our toes. Someone you can fall in love with over and over again. Love is beyond a beautiful thing and even more amazing to experience, whether it is romantic, platonic, or anything else. With that, there is so much to learn and put into practice. 

DB #13

As human beings we have all at one point been in a relationship. We all need to be in a healthy relationship with the significant other. One of the things that the workshops stressed was when in a relationship there is always a way that we need to treat one another with respect. Relationships are somewhat complex because of the fact that we have to give our fair share of efforts to make sure that relationships survive. Healthy relationships involve having total respect for one another. Another take away from the workshop is that there is a need for sacrifice for any healthy relationship. We find ourselves in need to get support from the people we are in any relationship and one of the biggest things is to make sure that we respect the people we are in relationships with. Respect usually leads to doing things that will make those in relationships with us comfortable. By respect, we have to value what others want and make sure that they are comfortable in any relationship. What left me wondering is the fact that we need to take the diversity in any relationship as a strength and develop it in a good way. That is something I would like to explore and understand better.

 

I really enjoyed what they were talking about. It is really important to focus on healthy relationships. I do believe that a person we choose to form part of us, needs to be someone who can support us in all of the ways that you can imagine. When we are around negative vibes that what we are gonna feel, it’s the same as positive. So, it is important to be around positive vibes. Someone who can support, motive, help and others. After the presentation I realized many things and made me put in practice many things. Us in college, we do not need someone who’s gonna distract us or make us lose our time and opportunity to study. We always need someone who’s gonna help and motivate us. 

 

The workshop we attended last week was very helpful. Especially during quarantine being in close quarters with a roommate, it is hard to make sure everyone is communicating their needs properly. I live with my best friend, so we are usually able to sort through our problems quickly, but isolation has definitely made things hard. I find that communication is the biggest factor I need to pay close attention to in relationships (platonic, familial, or romantic), because I have unfortunately experienced some of the negative behaviors we discussed. People who do not support you in a healthy way should all attend workshops like this! If only to recognize their toxic behaviors and hopefully rethink their approach.

Something I realized a few years back: not everyone wants to receive love the same way that I do. Attachment styles are different, and everyone should be able to express that to those around them.

The workshop allowed me to reflect on my own growth, not only in romantic relationships but also in friendships and family connections. It was amazing to acknowledge my changed perspectives, which have been a product of my hard work to address personal traumas. Also, it was a great experience to go through internally, but the fact that I was able to take part with such an open and amazing group of people felt very liberating. Professor Munshi and all of our classmates have created a welcoming and safe environment, which in turn has allowed me to utilize this workshop and share my personal experience of a damaging father-daughter relationship. Even in an all-virtual classroom, I have gained feelings of being open and protected by all of my peers. Just as much as this was important to me, I hope that all could take away a sense of connection. Knowing that we are not alone and can all support one another in our journey to become kind humans, to others, of course, but especially to ourselves.

After the workshop conducted by Victoria from the Women’s Resource Center and Robert from the Counseling Center, I can say that I learned a lot of new information. There were a lot of situations they explained that are considered as toxic behaviors, in which I thought were normal and healthy at the time but in reality, it wasn’t. It’s hard for someone to realize when there are unhealthy behaviors being presented. Having people like them to help and give advice is a blessing. I liked that this workshop wasn’t just focused on what a healthy relationship should be but also what a healthy relationship in friendships and families should look like. I have. Now realized that there were moments were one of my old friends displayed a lot of jealousy, constant calling when I would hang out with other friends and so much more. Some can guess why we aren’t friends now, and it was because the friendship was so unhealthy. I want to thank Professor. Munshi for taking time out of class and bringing these workshops to us! Also, to BMCC for offering these amazing resources!

From the workshop conducted by Victoria and Robert, the take away from the healthy relationships consisted of using my own experiences to learn what is the proper way to have a healthy relationship. Victoria and Robert placed an emphasizes on communication and on healthy coping habits.

I learned that the family dynamics in my household are so messed up and that in my own and future relationships I have to use my communication skills and expand on them. Also I thought I was a little crazy when my friend that I knew since I was nine until seventeen started to act very very negatively to me. It obviously was building up and I learned that it is alright to outgrow people and drop them when they are soooo toxic. Ive never regretted that decision.

It was great that you brought in Victoria and Robert for the workshop on relationships. Relationships are always complicated, and each one is different. Each person feels differently about boundaries, and what they want out of a relationship, whether romantic, intimate, platonic, familial or otherwise. In any relationship, toxic behaviors and patterns can arise, and they can come in all shapes and sizes.

Especially if you were raised in an environment where toxic behaviors were the norm, it can be difficult to know what a healthy relationship even looks like. If you have unhealthy behaviors modeled, you might not recognize certain red flags of unhealthy or even abusive behavior in your relationships as an adult, and I can speak from experience there. It’s so important to have that outside perspective at times to remind us what healthy parameters and boundaries look like, and workshops like these can step in with that non-biased perspective of what is and isn’t healthy. I mean, living in a society like ours that so often models creepy behaviors as being romantic gestures, I know I have been confused when swept up in a charged romantic relationship about what should or shouldn’t be acceptable behavior.

In my view, as someone who has tremendously benefited and continues to benefit from therapy, I’m so glad BMCC offers these resources. Connecting with that department in a human level is so helpful, and encouraging to actually utilize that resource since I’ve seen how competent and lovely some of their people are. Especially after this year, managing all of the relationships at home, or conversely dealing with being alone, it can be a lot, and I seriously don’t know where I would be without a therapist to help guide me through it all. Having that advice can truly be a salve to your sanity. Any encouragement and accessibility to any counseling sessions is so wonderful.

I’m so glad the Womens Resource Center and Counseling Center did this collab! I thought it was great that they approached the discussion of relationships in a broader term to include but not limit itself to romantic relationships. Toxic relationships that exist within families and friendships are very prevalent and don’t usually get the same type of attention. Especially during pandemic living situations, it seems as if we are all living in very close quarters of each other, which makes setting boundaries and communication so much more important in order to maintain a healthy duel environment for living, learning, working, etc.

My boyfriend and I started living together only a few months before the start of the pandemic, I remember how difficult of an adjustment it was just to start sharing a physically small space with someone, but then when he started WFH how a whole new level of communication and boundaries needed to be implemented. It’s hard! It takes a lot of work and there were definitely some uncomfortable discussions and frustration but I’m overall grateful for the experience to practice being a good partner/roommate. However, I know how different this experience could’ve been if him or myself contributed to toxic behaviors or a lack of willingness to communicate. I think that the WRC and Counseling Center would be amazing resources for anyone who had concerns about navigating boundary/communication issues and potentially toxic behaviors!