Ijeoma A. and Pascoe wrote about expectations that are placed on girls and boys. Some of the norms that were written were called the “Four Commandments”. It was said that they were created to define a woman’s responsibility to her family. Throughout her childhood Ijeoma grew up in a society where she was suppressed, she couldn’t be herself so she hid her true identity. For her it was mandatory to take care of her brothers and cook the meals for her family, while attending school at the same time. Her job were household duties just because she was a girl, which meant it was an obligation for her.
In my personal experience I have been through a similar situation. Although I don’t have any brothers, my dad has a mentality where he thinks that my mother and I should do everything at the house. His excuse is always that he works and once he gets home he wants everything ready but we don’t let him treat us like that. My mom always tells him that she works too and is also tired so if he wants something he can do it himself. Obviously there are time where we actually do it but not because we feel obligated to do so.
