1-The reading from the Performing Gender and Interpersonal Communication Research opened up a the door of the debate over feminine theory and its extension  to the theoretical, fictional, or philosophical discourse, it also brings up the gender inequality between male and female, and how the power is shifted socially to a specific gender over the other one:” great satisfaction we were then able to assert that “sex is a biological designation,” and “gender is a set of socially constructed expectations for women and men.”

when one is born,s/she is full of hope and freedom that they can achieve and be whoever they want to be, but as s/he grows older they face many social barriers, limitations, and oppressions that dictate what women and men are intended to be. Following the norms of the society where one was born is inevitable to stay connected to the society and because we can’t change these rules unless we hold the power in our hand; ”recognizes that we are born into and must operate within a network of power relations, not of our own making” (p. 375)”.

Gender discrimination is related to social constructions and not to the body’s biology.” the separation of sex and gender allowed us to point to social constructions, not biological destiny as the source of women’s oppression and men’s privileges”.Some of the social discriminations that men and women face are seen in the interpretation of gender from the early stages of life and even before birth.” the separation of sex and gender allowed us to point to social constructions, not biological destiny as the source of women’s oppression and men’s privileges” Every family is waiting to have that boy impatiently because males are seen as assets and as a household leader who holds the family name, while women are seen as a burden until they find a husband.

Analyzing the gender performance, exploring the theatrical performance as a metaphor for the materialization, surveying previous research on performativity will help educate our minds and make us aware of the big gap between both genders in the community and how we can make that inequality disappear.

2-  Sex is a fantasy that everyone is looking for. Extending oral and body communication in the ” Consent and refusal is not the only talking points/ sex talk” article was interesting on how one can refuse or accept an invitation, a request for sexual activity, or an invitation without feeling pressured to accept it if not it will be unethical and harmful.

we use communication every day to express ourselves to receive and send messages but I feel that we do it subconsciously that we don’t pay attention to the details, the tone, and the force used during this activity. J L Austin’s speech act theory ”focus on what an act of speaking accomplishes, as opposed to what its words mean ”.  And it shows the power of words and the things we can do with them is enormous.

To engage in a safe sexual activity, we need to follow few steps: consenting to the act willingly, having clear communication about roles and expectations from this activity, willing to participate in an ethical sex act where both parties are satisfied to a certain limit.

Sexual invitation, gifts, and invitation all shared the common characteristics that leave the recipient free to turn it down without being pressured to accept or refuse and at the same time required gratitude from both sides in case of an approval of an invitation or a request for sexual activity.

Also, the method of the Safewords allowed people to engage in any given activity where certain rules are already set can be a great way to satisfy one’s desire, because both parties can exit the activity any time without explanation and without hurting each other during a sex act, or any other activity because it enables the physical and emotional safety for everyone.

3- ”Your Behavior Creates Your Gender video by the American philosopher and gender theorist Judith Butler explains the fact on how someone’s behavior can demonstrate their gender regardless of their sex and physiology that was given at birth.

””We act and walk and speak and talk in ways that consolidate an impression of being a man or being a woman.”

the gender of a woman or a man is something that one should relate too and feel comfortable with. If one is given a male body but s/he feels more feminine that reflects an unbalanced fit between the gender and the sex wich will create more trouble if there is no family and or social support toward this imbalance. So if I speak and I feel as a woman in the body of a man I should be a woman because my behavior and my lifestyle reflect who I am and who I want to be.

Julia R Johnson pushed for the importance and the need of transgender studies within the intercultural communication and how one’s identity is constructed and influenced by the surrounding environment and the influence of certain social groups, and how each one of us can help disturb the power inequality in the society.
According to Johnson ”transgender is persons who challenge gender normative which includes persons who identify as trans-feminine, transmasculine, transsexual, two Spirit, cross-dressers, Chanticleer, same-gender-loving, in the life, female to male, male to female, inter-sex and more”. Julia’s Johnson’s description of a transgender person whose gender identity is not aligned with the gender assigned at birth. Most transgender doesn’t feel that they belong to their body and feel a disconnection to this body physically and emotionally.
Adding this feeling of not belonging and looking for the inner you to the society judgemental opinions and values will eventually create a disturbing atmosphere full of miscommunication, hate, and anger between the transgender and their community.
Julia R. Johnson argues that her definition is problematic because in ”some context some people of color transgender signals witnesses and the corresponding Western conceptions of gender binary transgender is considered an inaccurate deception of the gender identity”.
Johnson has decided to use trans with us asterisk and hyphen to signal gender non-conformity of all kinds.
The prefix Cis in Cissexual ad Cisgender means the same side as. Therefore a cisgender person is someone who’s morphology is aligns with her or his identity. And a cissexual person is someone whose sex identity matches her or his morphology. These definitions are significant because Cisgender and Cissexual people have unearned privileges that represent who they are as a government issue license, they never have to suffer from being a transgender and fighting for their rights like CeCe McDonald or Marsha ( event if CeCe is a transgender she was incarcerated in all men jail). they have no fear of being rejected from the community, their own families, and losing their job, and or health care.
The intersection of race, gender, and sexuality impacted McDonald ‘s case heavily for a lot of reasons:
a-The assumption is that African Americans who come from a poor community with low income are all violent and want to create a disturbance.
b-Being transgender and disturbing the norm of the society that only approves of Cisgender and cissexual people and support them will definitely create more fire and impact her case negatively.
Working in retail and cosmetics, in particular, opened my eyes and my personality to meet and adapt with a lot of personalities and also with transgender, guy, and cisgender people. I believe that this field will always welcome anyone regardless of sexual orientation and gender as long as one is good and professional,s/he will always be welcomed.

Family, school, religious institutions, and media forged certain ideas, beliefs, and norms on how each gender should act, behave, and processed within a normal social constitution. all the rules learned within the family gets the same support from school and media and make it look normal to everyone. ”Gender/ sex difference sexist because of larger social forces, particularly institutions and the communication that exists within and between them.”
for example, a woman should be a nurturer and men should be the housemaster. all these institutions support the same idea so it makes it normal and if it’s questioned it becomes a taboo. The fear of being rejected from a certain society make us weak individuals who can’t make their own decision from choosing their clothing, lifestyle because of the influence of the society, the capitalism, and the advertisement that shapes our mind to think that if I’m wearing certain designer jean or bag I will look and feel confident, and therefore attract more friends and family member’s admiration.” Gender is created, not just within families or interpersonal relationships but also within the structure of all major social institutions, including schools, religion, the economy, and the state….These institutions shape and mold the experiences of us all. (p.30; italics in original).
The co-existence of the micropolitics,macropolitics, and the mesopolitics in the society and their influence throughout all the institutions like school, work, religious places makes it impossible to break free from this gender bias and  from the systematic inequalities. For example the existence of the systemic sexism that forged the idea that women pay more for their items that men and even for car services and maintenance. I remember that I used to go to a mechanic to fix my car and I feel that I was in his place every other week fixing something just because I had no clues about cars and of course he was charging me more than he did when my husband came and argued with him the charged and  of course he did adjust them.
one must dig deep down our social institution and try to erase the ideas of gender and sex, like the idea of  hegemony that reflects the dominance of one  sex over the other in the social institution. For example when the woman gets married she needs to take her husband’s name. When I got married I was against this idea because it made me feel like I have to erase who I’m as a person. After all, my name represents me so I choose to keep my name, maybe that this can seems strange but this was my way of keeping my identity as a complete woman.
The manifestation of racial, gender, and sexual orientation micro-aggressions chapter was very interesting to me. I have certainly felt and lived difficult situations where I was discriminate either because I was an Arabic woman, a mother of two that need to take care of her kids instead of working and going to school, or even when parking my car where most people think that men have more training and expertise in parking cars than women. Sometimes I chose to ignore them and move on and sometimes I had to react nicely and responded that I’m a woman who seeks more knowledge to educate herself and be a good support for her children’s future educationally and financially.
Micro-aggressions can be based on different factors from gender, race, social class, sexual orientation, social group, or religion. Our society holds a lot off micro-aggressions toward a lot of people intentionally or unintentionally, for example, the racial micro-aggression in the death of George Floyd and the debate of Black Life Matter and their suffering just because of their skin color. second, the gender micro-aggressions where women and men are treated in the work placed based on their sex rather than their merit. we rarely see a nurse men because it’s reserved for women who are nurturer based on their sex, on the other hand, the president and C.E.O job are more for men because they are considered to have the power and the knowledge to lead. Third, we see the micro-aggressions toward a marginal social group like Spanish, Muslim,poor, gay, lesbian, bisexual because they represent a small portion of the population and look at strangers and different.
Micro-aggressions are omi-present and will still be as long as we treat whoever is different as a minority and with inequality instead of opening our door and mind to learn from them . Liberty, equality is what our constitution is built on, and if we follow these fundamentals we can reach a peaceful ,unique,and  a homogeneous society.

Feminist philosophy of language and its inequality in treating males and females in our society based on gender bias intentionally or unintentionally.

Reading the Stanford Encyclopedia of philosophy and the Identity Terms opened my eyes to a new world where simple words can describe powerful men and others can describe a weak woman. Reading books in Arabic, French, and English all suggested that this gender bias exists in all the languages because most of the culture gives the men the power and the woman is always the nurturer. I can also admit that thanks to recent feminist advocates and philosophers we saw a huge impact on feminism and it improved the way we look and describe a female.

The woman is not the follower, the nurturer, the weak body, and the intellectual female, but we see more of diversion and more of a positive involvement of women from all ages in all ranges of higher positions. so our language has to reflect that change as well.

Let’s say the Chief officer or the chairman is a woman why can’t she be called a chairwoman? Maleness should not be the norm anymore.

”There is sexism in language, it does enhance the position of males, and males have had control over the production of cultural forms. (Spender 1985: 144)”, once a person is born a male, he can claim all the power even in the language because he is the strongest and the most dominant creature.

Another issue was that ”One sort of criticism was that philosophy of language, like English, displays a male bias. Another was simply that philosophy of language is ill-equipped to further feminist aims”. 

Society’s influence went beyond the family, the culture, and put a huge stamp on the language as well and made it male-centered. what if we were living in a world where women dominate more, will we be having the same issues, will we dominate the language and make it woman-centered?

Eventually, strength, dedication, working hard, and having a positive attitude toward anything can make a big change in resolving any gender bias issues. Genetic, physiology should not limit anyone and restrict their abilities and their dreams especially our communication and our language.