As suggested in the reading women take a normative concept, an ideal standard. When I decided to come to the USA, I had many people questioning me and telling me, being a girl going away from your family will you be okay? I was kept in the ideal standard of what a girl should be doing, living with their parents and after a while getting married. Also, I had a lot going to identify myself in this my place due to differences in race, culture, religion, and different languages I speak. I went to school in Iowa, where you don’t see a lot of immigrants like here in New York. I was “typical immigrants”. A girl with brown skin, short height was not common where I stayed and went to school. And I would take a pause to understand the conversation or lecture taught in class as English was not my first language, and it was difficult to cope. So, I used to find myself not existing in the group of people in Iowa. Truly speaking, I would not have thought a single difference or what I went through during my childhood or when I got an adult about my identity until I joined this class. Because I used to think, like every single individual that I am female, I act like one, I come from Asia, so Asian- that’s what my identity was in the new city of Iowa, but more I am going through the lessons in this class, I am getting myself in the position to question myself, what was my identity then? Was I able to convivence people who am I? Or all the time, they had known me for my physical appearance only?
“sex making” and “Invisibility of women” were two interesting theories that I relate mostly to my day to day life. English, like most—but not all—languages, requires a great deal of what Marilyn Frye calls ‘sex marking’ (Frye 1983)- “Sex making theory”. I could relate this as in my country We usually don’t use it as a pronoun but end our sentences with certain words denoted for the specific gender like “cha” for male and “che” for females. But the modern language, like the one we talk back home, only includes “cha” for all gender which I guess shows maleness as a norm, but we can also see as a revolution of neutral gender. Because then we do not need to know the sex of an individual to refer to them. Next is about “Invisibility of women” where feminist has argued that terms “he” and “man” has made the women invisibility. Ans coming from the male dominant society, I could not disagree with it. Coming from a family, where my mom has to always work her hard but were not appreciated, coming from a country where a son is taken as an important bloodline for a family, who had this strong belief that he could create a way to heaven. Girls do not exist besides working for males and making child. So, it’s obviously coming from the society where I was born a girl child, and looking for my own importance and self-identity, I accept the concept of “Invisibility of women”.
