Rebecca Kukla’s “Sex Talks”, definitely really unraveled and elucidated just how complex the language of sex is in an actual sexual environment. While reading we learn that the oversimplified terms that are, consent, refusal, and request are used in the thinking process of an individual in this particular situation. Taking a different approach Kukla instead analyzes the sexual negotiation of language; if we can talk more freely about sex without it being considered outlandish to be discussed, then reaction’s towards it will decrease and we’ll be able to see how another person would express themself. Sex should be an activity that is enjoyed by all of those who engage in it freely, the mentioning of a safe word makes a lot of sense when it comes down to ceasing everything to a halt, making up excuses to stop, why they should stop, and can ultimately distribute courage to those who would be afraid; even if the person consents beforehand, once either one no longer consents there shouldn’t be a problem halting what they are doing. It was also mentioned that the way we say something can and may be interpreted in a wrong way, an example of this, can be a grin or having a long conversation with someone may think you are being a flirt with them. Saying something a certain way could even make it seem like you are doubting, upset, questioning, or even yelling at the person. We have to be careful in the ways we communicate and approach things because anything we say can be easily misread or misinterpreted. Communication is something we use all the time but don’t necessarily pay attention to when we actually communicate; we do it subconsciously (in my opinion). When communicating we need to pay more attention to the tones, way, details, and the amount of force we use when actually communicating because these points/subjects are vital to communication.
