There are many different ways in which we can communicate and how our communication and expressions can be interpreted. When it comes to talking about sex and what we consider to consent or refuse when it comes to sexual situations there are many ways in which things that are said can be misinterpreted. According to the article consent and refusal are not the only talking points I realized that indeed sometimes even when we consent into exploring different things during sex , we can consent because that what we truly want, or because we are afraid that our partner might leave if we don’t consent into trying new things or simply because we want the sex without necessarily liking or agreeing to the terms. In the article it mentioned that “we can autonomously consent to all sorts of bad sex, for terrible reasons”, and like I mentioned this is true but as we grow we learn that as women we must consent to things we truly want to and not feel obligated to accept if we do no want to, woman can be left to feel as if we are objects whom can easily be replaced if we don’t accept to the terms men want and that is not right or true.
Also as it was mentioned the way we say things may be interpreted in the wrong way, for example if a smile or really talkative conversation might make someone think you are flirting with them, or sometimes that way you say something might make it seem as if you’re questioning, screaming or even doubting. This takes me to the YouTube video your behavior creates your gender when Judith Butler mentioned that someone shouted out their window “Are you a lesbian” but it wasn’t clear if it was a question or if the woman was looking to harass her or just curious and wanted to be sure. We must be careful in the way we approach or even say things because they can easily be misinterpreted. Another topic that is being discussed which is of major importance to what we have been talking about through out the semester is the way gender is interpreted, Judith Butler mentioned that we tend to act as if being of a man or being a woman is an internal reality, which is very important because its not something we must act upon but we must act upon on the gender we feel most comfortable in.
