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• Arms • Hair • Hands |
| · They are big, and I don’t feel comfortable with them if I don’t cover them up. People always have something to say about them.
· I love my hair; I’ve always had long curly hair. Since I was a kid people will always compliment my hair because of how long and beautiful they were even if made them straight. Also, it makes me feel good about myself. · I have tiny hands, people will compliment them when they notice the long nails on how nice they look on me and with any accessories like rings. |
| · About conversations and things, they said to me, like you need to lose some weight you have boxer arms.
· I grew up having long care and I just have so much love for but also it makes me confident and beautiful. People be saying I have small hands, and everything looks cute on them. |
| Unfortunately, people always have something to say about other people’s bodies. It became very common to walk by someone’s side and that person will not take their eyes off you because they have an opinion about how you look. In chapter 4 of Gendered/Sexed Bodies, “ People who identify as women are encouraged to be continually aware of their bodies” I can relate to that, because my own family who can spend weeks or more without seeing me they will come over and visit to say “ Anaya, you are getting fat, look at your arms, you are getting ugly, you have to do something about it.” This makes me feel bad about myself and think if I am enough just the way I am, that I am not just a “chubby” girl.
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It all depends on how that person says what he thinks, what bothers you most and makes you doubt yourself is when a person says an opinion that was never asked for but not that, it is that they say what they say in a mocking way. I have tried to ignore certain comments, but to be honest, some of them will be going around in your head, putting you in a position where you just might end up doing what that person wants looking for their approval. I would say that as a woman, I have to stop looking at myself with someone else’s perspective in order to feel secure and comfortable with our body.
