Hello everyone, my name is Jhulio Vargas, and I currently live in the Bronx. I am a full-time employee at New York Life, working as an Operation Consultant. I am also a Small Business Entrepreneurship major. I anticipate graduating by the end of 2020, and will then work my way towards receiving my bachelor’s at Baruch College. The ultimate goal is to open my own advisory company that helps college students through their college experience. I believe that businesses need to be corporately responsible for how your business impacts society and what you and your business can do to make the world a better place. That philosophy is my purpose, and I hope to impact and change people’s lives through my bussines. However, I believe this class can be beneficial to my overall life and career, as it can help me develop a more educated mindset that can help me have a better understanding of how gender can be created by the way we communicate and the impact that it has on people’s mind and behaviors. Furthermore, my spirit is very adventurous, and I enjoy traveling and learning about different cultures. Understanding different identities can help you have a more diverse perspective about others.
As I watched the videos, many things resonated with me, especially the first video, “Be a Man.” I grew up in a household where the men have always pictured as the head of the family. My father did not cook or clean; he only worked. On the other hand, my mother worked too and did all the cooking, cleaning while also bringing money to the table and taking care of us. Unfortunately, she was never seen as a strong contributor to the family, although she was doing more. All because she is a woman. I remember that as a kid, every time my brother and I fell or got injured, my parent will say, “stop crying, be a man,” or “stop crying be a boy.” I didn’t realize that this communication between my parent and me was building my gender identity. I grew up thinking that men are not week, that men don’t cry, but all that was how they perceive gender and probably without them noticing they were passing it down to me.
Despite the fact that some people think that men shouldn’t be cooking or cleaning because that is known to be women’s duties. I know that as a society we can progress, by accepting that we are all equal. Women and Men are both capable of doing the same jobs. A lot of this controversy are created because of stereotypes and lack of knowledge. Some first-generation immigrants are taught to treat women and men differently because they were raised this way. For example, my mom and Dad which never allowed my sister to be outside past nine o’clock at night, yet my brother and I would still be out by twelve am on a school night (perks of being a man they call it).
Wow Jhulio ! this was a great read, thank you for being transparent. This is some what similar to what I discussed on my post . Coming from a family where the men was focused on more than the women, and only specific roles were expected from each gender. You mentioned that your mother was never looked at as the strong one who contributed , which is unfortunate but it happens so often without even recognizing it. I can also relate to what you said about it being passed down to you. As generations pass , unconsciously some behaviors and beliefs are passed down to us whether they are good or bad . I agree with you that things can get better , and I do believe things have changed a lot now today. Women and men are now becoming more open and aren’t focusing on the gender role so much .
I also wish you nothing but success in perusing you dreams and career in the business entrepreneur field you desire !
Hi Jhulio! Thanks for sharing and I wish you the best in pursuing your career. I totally agree and hope that one day society will eventually agree that despite our differences we are all human and should all be treated equally.
Hey Jhulio, I grew up in a similar household like yours. My family was like that as well. But I totally agree when you say that all men and women should be represented as equal. I agree that Men are surely capable of doing so called womanly duties and woman are capable of doing manly duties. All my guy cousins were allowed to be out late but I had to be in early too just like your sister because they said I’m a girl.
Hi, Jhulio I hope and wish you steady success in your future and career. I definitely agree with what you’re saying on how we should all be treated equally because both genders are in fact capable of doing anything no matter the task.