Hello, everyone, my name is Ligia Urdiales I am 19, I was born and raised in Brooklyn. This is my last semester at BMCC I will be graduating with an Associates Degree in Science for Health Professions. My goal is to pursue a career in nursing, which has been my dream for a very long time. I am taking this class because I need a writing-intensive class in order to graduate, but I am very excited for this class because we all have different stories to share some even might be similar but we will all be able to view someones else perspective and even give our opinions on it.
I want to start by saying that these videos made by other students sharing their experiences was very nice, I am amazed on the fact that that there were a couple stories I can relate. Everyone has gender stories / Identities of their own that has influenced us In some way. “Be a man” was a video that in some shape or form I can relate to because I grew up in a household where women had the responsibility to do everything in the house, such as cooking,cleaning, laundry etc. meanwhile boys/ men were expected to do these things. I remember when i was smaller being expected to do everything in the house, no matter how busy i was with homework I had to leave everything and start cleaning, washing dishes meanwhile my brother who was not doing nothing was not expected to do nothing in the house. I even remember having a boyfriend and he didn’t have the same views as my family did, therefore when he would help me clean, cook his parents didn’t approve and even got mad, because they expected me to be doing these things alone. I was surprised that people had these beliefs of women serving men in a way, I am glad that my mom has changed her view because even she got tired of always working and coming home to do everything meanwhile my brothers or even dad not helping around when they had the chance, I strongly believe that working together and getting things done as a family works better than having men believe that they do not have household responsibilities as well.
I believe that in a way i can also relate to “Eczema” I don’t have this skin condition but i have struggled with self confidence due to my acne, I am sometimes not satisfy with how I look or even believe that I should be looking a different way. I have tried so many things to clear up my acne but sometimes nothing seems to work, but I have come to a point where I have to accept myself the way I am and that constantly stressing over these things makes it worse. We are all different and unique and that’s what makes us special.
Hello Ligia, I really loved reading your post, I can feel your strength and your positive outlook on life. I believe that we both had similar feedback to ” be a man ” video. I grow up in the same environment where women and men were assigned roles even before they were born. women are destined to be married and to take care of the house, while men have more options of fulfilling their dreams.
I strongly believe that society has a huge impact on how we treat each other based on our gender, culture, backgrounds, and social level.
When I first met my husband, I was very intrigued because he reminded me of my father and how different he was.
my father was the ideal man, cooking, brushing my hair, and playing with me. The opposite of others that always prefered to have boys than girls.
My husband and I always share the responsibilities and duties inside and outside the house.
looking forward to reading more of your posts.
best.
Firdawce.