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Discussion 4

What does it mean to be polite in your community and how is politeness manifested in language?

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  1. Politeness is the practical application of good manners or etiquette so as not to offend others and to put them at ease. It is a culturally defined phenomenon, and therefore what is considered polite in one culture can sometimes be quite rude or simply eccentric in another cultural context.
    In Africa and particular at My country Benin Republic, First, you start by taking your shoes off and leaning or kneel quickly to greet the person you’re visiting. Kneeling is considered to be a sign of humility and respect to the host or elder. Some people will remain on their knees during the whole process. Use “please” (s’il vous plait) and “thank you” (merci) when interacting with locals. Avoid raising your voice or displaying anger, as it is considered disrespectful. Direct eye contact, especially to adults, is considered disrespectful. Younger individuals are expected to initiate communication with an elder. It is polite to be in a lower position than the elder person one is talking to. Also, the elder priority is to have a seat before the young person at any meeting or place.
    Politeness can be defined as the ways in which language is employed in conversation to show consideration for the feelings and desires of one’s interlocutors, to create and uphold interpersonal relationships (so-called politic behavior), and to comply with the rules for what society or one’s culture considers appropriate behavior.
    Politeness can be manifested in everyday life in full of face threatening act. It is a set of strategies for managing these routine face threatening acts. For example, we teach the children how to say thank, please, excuse me, pardon me is, these has the most basic forms because politeness is a fundamental set of skills for the social world that the youngest children need to learn them. It can be manifested too by what communication theorists call positive face or negative face.
    Always start the conversation with genuine compliments or positive remarks to make the other person feel valued and use a friendly and respectful tone of voice that matches the content of your message, clearly state your request or opinion while using polite language to soften the impact and mainly thank the other.
    We have four politeness strategies: bald on record, on the record with redress, off the record and don’t do the act at all.

  2. In many communities, being polite involves adhering to social norms and conventions that promote respectful and considerate behavior towards others. Politeness is often manifested through verbal and nonverbal cues in language and communication. Politeness involves using polite forms of address, such as “please,” “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “I’m sorry.” Honorifics, such as titles (Mr., Mrs., Dr., etc.) and respectful terms of address (sir, ma’am), are also used to show deference and respect to others. Politeness is often demonstrated by expressing gratitude and appreciation for others’ actions or contributions. Saying “thank you” and acknowledging others’ efforts or kindnesses are important aspects of polite communication. Politeness may involve using indirect language to soften requests, suggestions, or criticisms. For example, instead of giving a direct command, one might use a polite request or suggestion, such as “Could you please pass the salt?” rather than “Pass the salt.” Politeness often involves showing genuine interest and concern for others’ well-being and feelings. Asking about someone’s day, expressing sympathy or empathy, and offering help or support are ways to demonstrate politeness and care in communication. Politeness includes respecting others’ personal space, privacy, and boundaries. Avoiding intrusive questions, waiting for permission before entering someone’s personal space, and respecting confidentiality are important aspects of polite behavior.
    Politeness entails taking responsibility for one’s actions and acknowledging mistakes or offenses. Offering sincere apologies and taking steps to rectify errors or misunderstandings demonstrate humility and respect for others.Overall, politeness in language and communication involves being considerate, respectful, and mindful of others’ feelings and social norms. It fosters positive social interactions, reduces conflict, and promotes harmony within communities.

  3. In communities, politeness is interactions, respect, consideration, and empathy. It’s about fostering an environment where everyone feels valued and heard. Respecting personal boundaries and using language that is considerate of others feelings. it also means to not use offensive language and to communicate in a way that promotes understanding. listening is also important It involves genuinely considering others opinions responding respecfully and not showing that your not interested or disatisfied. Also, being culturally sensitive in language and behavior is important. Adapting our language and action to satisfy culture differences cultural differences helps avoid offenses in other cultures.

  4. Within our communities, politeness is a behavior that shows respect, consideration and understanding of other people’s feelings. As stated in Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, politeness is marked by an appearance of consideration, tact, deference, or courtesy. Politeness showcases ways we introduce situations, greetings such as ” How are you?” and saying “Please” and “Thank you”. Politeness demonstrates a level of respect that one possesses and is able to display characteristics of advanced culture. Politeness in language can be manifested differently through vocal, written or signed language and can vary from culture to culture. For example, in my culture one expression of politeness is doing a cheek to cheek kiss upon meeting, this expression is taught at the early age of adolescence which is followed all throughout adulthood. Another form of politeness in my culture is showing adults respect by not addressing them by first name and being labeled rude for doing so. Some cultures may not deem calling family on a first name basis rude but maybe as a term of endearment. Politeness varies through all languages and cultures, which includes the understanding and the consideration of all interactions. Politeness is a basic skill which should be adapted and can be utilized within all other cultures.

  5. Politeness is essentially a matter of taking into account the feelings of others as to how they should be interactionally treated, including behaving in a manner that demonstrates appropriate concern for interactors’ social status and their social relation- ship.

    Politeness is an essential quality that helps us to build positive relationships, foster understanding, and promote cooperation. Empathy and politeness go hand in hand, and is one of the first skills we as a society are taught as children. They are vital for creating a healthy and harmonious society where individuals feel valued and respected. In my community, taking your shoes off when you enter someone’s home is considered polite. In language, it’s considered polite to use “please” and “thank you” when requesting help from others. In my family, we greet each other with a kiss on the cheek, which may be considered impolite in other cultures. Politeness varies from person to person depending on their upbringing, but share the same foundation of respect.

  6. Being courteous is highly regarded in my community, and it is frequently shown by communicating with others in a respectful manner and being sensitive to their feelings. This can be shown in language in a number of ways, such as when you use polite expressions like “please” and “thank you” to convey your thanks and appreciation. Furthermore, it is customary to address people using the proper titles or honorifics based on their relationship or status. Being considerate to others also entails choosing words and tones carefully so as not to offend or upset them. For example, it’s common practice to delicately express disagreement or criticism by softening your words or using indirect language. All things considered, using courteous language promotes constructive relationships and preserves peace in the community.

      1. In my culture, using polite language is addressing people with respect, using polite vocabulary, and keeping your tone thoughtful. When addressing someone, especially in a formal or professional setting, it is polite to use titles and honorifics such as “Mr.”, “Ms.”, “Dr.”,” or other appropriate titles. Saying “Good afternoon, Professor Lee” as opposed to simply “Lee” is one way to demonstrate respect. Using someone’s last name until they give you permission to use their first name is also considered courteous.

        It’s important to use polite language, which includes saying “please” and “thank you” a lot when speaking. This shows consideration and admiration for the time and work of others. It is more kind to say “Could you please send me the report?” as opposed to just “Send me the report.” In the same way, saying “Thank you for your help” instead of just “Thanks” conveys a more profound level of gratitude. It’s also very important to remain courteous, especially when arguing. Rather than stating “You’re wrong,” state something like “I see it differently” or “I have another perspective.” This strategy aids in maintaining civil and constructive interactions.

  7. In my community, being polite means showing kindness and respect to others. It means avoiding rude language or disrespectful remarks. Politeness is shown through active listening, being considerate in how we speak to others, and respecting personal space. Being polite is about treating others with kindness and consideration in our words and actions.

    Politeness is shown through various strategies in greetings, such as using appropriate forms of address, expressions of gratitude, and maintaining a friendly tone. Politeness is also demonstrated through non-verbal cues, such as smiling emojis or virtual gestures.

  8. In my community, to be polite is to be as respectful as possible especially with my Haitian elders. I make sure to avoid any signs of disrespect and always smile while talking too. However, it will always be in your best interest to be polite in other communities so you can build relationships and have a good reputation.

    Politeness is manifested in language by expressing a good tone while communicating with others and doing kind gestures and things. For example, politeness can be shown with actions like a handshake, nod, or wave.

  9. In my community, being polite is all about treating others how you would want to be treated. You never know what someone is going through. We all live very different lives so being polite or doing random acts of kindness can really make someone’s day, week, or life. Everyone agrees we hold no obligation to being polite, so it means that much more to do so. Its how relationships start within communities. To me, being polite is to be respectful towards others. Being respectful goes a long way because it not only represents you as a person, but it represents your community as well.

    I do believe politeness can be used to manifest language. There’s non-verbal communication which is used through body language, how you express yourself, and through gestures. For example you can show politeness through language with how you communicate, physical affection like a hug if you know them, gift giving, and even simply being respectful. Being polite and respectful creates peace tranquility.

  10. Being polite can have several meanings and occurrences for different people across the world. Generally, politeness is having or showing behavior that is respectful to the other person and is considerate of their race, gender, beliefs etc.

    Politeness is manifested in language in several of ways. There are times where people often make fun one’s culture, language, traditions etc. that they find is out of the norm or is different from their culture and or perspective. There are many cultures that are similar, and some completely differ on what they find as respectable and polite. Some of these are how children communicate with their parents, elderly, what is expected of their behavior etc.

    Not to mention being polite and respectful also has to do with tone of voice and body language. You can make a very nice comment to someone but it how you say it have the bigger meaning/advantage over the actual comment. For example, a person might feel that you are being sarcastic not serious if you are not looking at them clearly, listening to them and more.

  11. Politeness is a communicative component that varies by cultural practice. How a person perceives what is polite and impolite is a learned behavior that is reinforced by their culture and pragmatic competence. What one culture considers a polite act may be considered superfluous or even impolite in another culture. It is important to research and understand cultural norms and behavior when speaking with people of other cultures or language to avoid misunderstanding.
    I am from the midwest so politeness in that community is pretty laid back. Make eye contact when speaking to someone, say hello and goodbye, I think sometimes we tend to heavily apologize for things and say “sorry” a bit more casually. When I lived in the south, it felt like politeness norms were similar but more amplified. People use terms like “sir” and “ma’am” especially when addressing someone who is older or in a high position. It is more expected that you maintain composed and don’t show aggression, as that is considered disrespectful.

  12. In my community being polite is being respectful to another person, showing kindness to one another, and addressing them formally. My Family is known to always give out gifts when meeting family members and we believe that is how we should always act.
    Politeness is manifested in language by using a friendly tone, communicating, and always listening first. Giving compliments. Making a person feel welcomed and desired.

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