Regardless of gender, color, nationality, or political connections, identity plays a crucial role in a patriarchal system because it creates the qualities that define who or what a person is, enabling them to exercise their rights and have an impact on society while women are discriminated against. Without these elements—society, family, friends, and culture—a patriarchal system finds it challenging to function. In my opinion, a patriarchal system begins at home and develops throughout society. Bell Hooks says that patriarchy has its roots in the reverence for both male and female beings, which precludes favoring one over the other. Yet, it is essential to acknowledge patriarchy as a system.

The fact that patriarchy is built in human nature makes it hard to change, but when men understand that women have rights of their own and that no one is superior to another, a patriarchal system of equality may be achieved in all ramifications. So to be clear, women and men are not encouraged to engage in a tussle or a rivalry rather equality for all. In all honesty, I believed there is too much control and entitlement from men and they need to recognize that they have been privileged. Although I enjoy being pampered and taken care of, I do not enjoy compromising my principles as a married person, and when I mention how much I have to give up, my husband responds, “Me too.” For instance, I recall quitting a well-paying career to his favor and perpetually needing to put his interests first.

I am aware that there is no “hierarchy of oppression” and that each of us experiences different forms of oppression. Since the practices that exist at home are carried over into workplace environments, we have a responsibility to combat discrimination. Both men and women need to be aware of how they act and behave, promote equality, and speak out against customs that oppress women. For instance, several customs in my country impose that a lady cut her hair after her husband passes away and when refused you are seen as being rude.