Response 8

The post made by Shavoya Easy for this assignment in my opinion perfectly pictures the typical American household in the 20th century. The post shows a husband who is the “money maker” of the household since he is in his office clothes still and he is relaxing on his sofa while reading the daily newspaper. In his eyes and in the family’s eyes he is the focal point of everyone’s lives because of the actions others are doing for him. The son is holding another newspaper which I am assuming is to switch out whenever he is done reading the one he has in his hand and the child is also lighting the dad’s tobacco pipe. The mother is holding a plate of cake which I am assuming she made and she is also wearing a maid outfit which represents how she is taking care of all of the housework a paid maid would do. She is submissive to the man of the household and while he is away “working harder than anyone else”, the mother is in charge of taking care of the children, cleaning, cooking, etc. Even the family dog is assisting the leisure of the husband by changing his shoes. The family’s job is to surround themselves around the husband and make sure the husband’s only job is to work and relax when they get home. It completely undermines every other person’s day-to-day hard work and stress. Not to say one person’s stress is more than another however, mothers are told that their job is not hard enough since they do not have to “go to work”. It makes women obtain a mindset that they are only successful individuals if they submit themselves to the needs of men. Also generating the idea that, if a man does not fall in love with her or he cannot fully support her financially she is an embarrassment to the American Dream. It’s a mindset that still exists to this day and has created many forms of misogyny within many cultures (that I have seen myself). For example, in one of my cultural backgrounds (Mexican), the women’s only job is to give up their education, which could be even before graduating high school, give birth to their children, and tend to all of their needs on their own. When dinner is made, the food must be brought to the husband by the wife and the husband always eats first since they are the ones bringing in the money. Whatever dreams and aspirations women had, were forced to take them down and abandon all dreams regardless of anything. This is a lifestyle that is within many cultures around the globe and not only in American, and it makes it incredibly hard for women to make it into a successful career whether it is politics, business, architecture, etc. because men have created this idea that women are to be the submissive ones and have no true strengths beside being the caregiver. I can only speak on behalf of my experience but the women that I know today who come from immigrant families are struggling to be the change because of their parents and forcing them to fit into one category. Friends I know who are a part of the LGBTQ+ community are not accepted by their families because they will not marry a man and bear their own children. Newer generations are breaking these cultural barriers that have been passed down for centuries but at a cost that some of their families do not understand this new lifestyle and it is heartbreaking. We do not live in a world where women’s dreams, rights, and strength is to be denied. Everyone regardless of gender, sexuality, race, socio-economic status deserves equal rights and should never fit into an ideology that forces them into one category where mobility does not exist. It is understandable that this lifestyle may have existed before for centuries but it does not mean it is correct and the morally humane way to live and treat others. We live in a decade (more than ever) where we are correcting past mistakes and hopefully future generations will solve the mistakes we have made.

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