It’s actually really infuriating that women were told what to do, what to want and even how to think. Women had no control over their own lives or body. And it’s especially infuriating to me that women were shamed for being “frigid” and that heterosexual sex centers the penis and disregards female pleasure. What’s even more infuriating is that while so much progress has been made women are STILL controlled and disregarded in sex.
Women’s roles were so limited. There’s nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom, but the term “housewife” as it is conceptualised is inherently oppressive because there’s a lack of access to other avenues and occupations, unequal labor, and the absence of freedom of choice. In the 20th century women’s “only dream was to be perfect wives and mothers; their highest ambition to have five children and a beautiful house, their only fight to get and keep husbands. They had no thought for the unfeminine problems outside the home; they wanted the men to make the major decisions.They gloried in their role as women, and wrote proudly on the census blank “Occupation: housewife.” As stated in The Feminist Mystique by Betty Friedan. Imagine having your desires dictated to you, being reduced to a single role/occupation, it’s so unfulfilling. Many women do not want children, or husbands, or to stay at home, they want freedom to choice their occupation, choose their destiny and live true in their identity. Luckily we’ve made major progress in this area of woman’s liberation.
Frigidity is such a silly concept. Most women do not have vaginal orgasms. In Anne Koedt’s “The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm” it states “Although there are many areas for sexual arousal, there is only one area for sexual climax; that area is the clitoris. All orgasms are extensions of sensation from this area.” (4). I can personally attest to this because penetration is only pleasurable in one area, the underside of the clitoris leading into the vaginal canal (so essentially still the clitoris). I’m assuming that’s the infamous gspot but it’s never been pleasurable enough to give me an orgasm, so I’m very much in agreement that vaginal orgasms are a myth. Shaming women for something their anatomy is not meant to do is ridiculous. How illogical and moronic that the “intellectually superior” and “logical” gender just makes up facts with lack of scientific backing. The mental torture this wreaked on women. Women to this day are concerned about not being able to have vaginal orgasms and are unsatisfied in heterosexual sexual relations. The lack of education on the female body has many women confused about their own body and has heterosexual men neglecting their female sexual partners needs. It’s a toxic cycle of dissatisfaction and insecurity for women and I want it to end.
Nicole Guidetti’s Snapshot 8 which features a Tik Tok about Lesley Gore’s “You Don’t Own Me” which is said to be the first feminist anthem. I first heard this song sampled by a new artist named Saygrace and I was immediately in love with the lyrics. Lesley Gore captured my exact sentiments when a man is trying to be controlling or possessive, like seriously “don’t tell me what to do and don’t tell me what to say”. I’ve had random men in public tell me to smile, policing my facial expressions it’s wild. I’ve even dated a controlling guy who tried to control how I dress, and tried to force me into the gym because my ass wasn’t big enough for his liking, I left him with a swiftness. As Lesley gore says “I’m free and I love to be free to live my life the way I want, to say and do whatever I please”.
