in this book, ” beyond the gender binary” by Alok Vaid- Menon, he speaks about gender fluidity, the challenges the community faces, and what it would mean to get passed those challenges. gender has always been a big topic but has grown over the years. although the subject of gender identity is growing, there is a lack of understanding about it. Alok states that ” a lot more airtime is given to other people’s views of us rather than our own experiences”, when instead it should be reversed. this is important because over the years more restrictions have been placed on their community at the local, state, and federal levels. by doing this it would stop covering up the truth about the hardships and put them one step closer to ending the discrimination faced by the gender-nonconforming people. and instead live as people with no fear of losing their jobs, homes, or everyday privileges just for expressing who they are”, that it’s all states, ” I do not have the luxury of being. I am only seen as doing”, that it’s all an act and that at the end of the day they go back to being a man or woman. going beyond the gender binary norm wouldn’t mean being tolerated but rather accepted. it would mean safety, understanding, acknowledgment, and being seen as another human beings expressing themselves and who they really are.

my gender as a woman goes against the binary norm will be burning in public, taking out my wedgie in public, cursing a lot in public, speaking my mind, etc,. these are something things that people will not normally see women do these things in public. they expected women to be kind and be ladylike all the time. now how my gender fits the binary norm will be wearing girl clothing, puting on make up, laughing with my mouth covering my hands, shaving my legs, doing my nail etc., all these thing are so called what women are supposed to be dressing or doing. this how it used to be in the older generation, so i don’t know how it will be now in today’s socitey.