I agree with Mainardi about women’s liberation and liberated women being different. I had never viewed it in that light before. However, I’ve noticed a lot of discussion about women’s liberation. Or, as we say nowadays, split it 50/50. Many women believe that you should never go half with a man. I never understood it before, but I now agree. Nothing will ever truly be 50/50. Especially when it comes to having children. We are the ones who are carrying the child. We must tend to it. Countless nights must be spent with the baby and many exhausting days while the man is at work. Our bodies change. It can take weeks, maybe even months, for our bodies to heal. Despite this, there is a lot for us to do after we give birth. I once saw a video on Tik Tok of a man caring for his child while his wife recovered from childbirth. He took time off from work and let her sleep in. When the baby cried, he got up. And he made every effort to be there for his wife and the baby. When asked why he explained that it was because he had never gone through what she had to go through during those 9 months or those many hours in the delivery room. He thought it was the least he could do. He realized that while he was there every step of the way, it was nothing compared to having to go through it all. To be honest, I’ve noticed that when it comes to dividing everything up, it almost always comes down to the women doing more work. Not to mention that a lot of guys don’t know how to cook or clean, so you’ll just have more work to do. Mainardi mentions how men will do the chore incorrectly, and then you’ll have to help them. Also, sometimes you’ll have to show them how to do it over and over again. I think this is because they were not forced to do these things as children, so they will be uninterested in starting now. That is why, in my opinion, I will never do 50/50 with a man. Especially if I’m going to be living with him.
In “The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm,” Koedt discusses the lack of knowledge about female anatomy. When it comes to female pleasure, it’s always geared to benefit men. I believe that if men took the time to learn about our bodies, women would be satisfied sexually. In sex education, boys and girls were frequently separated. However, they would continue to teach girls about male anatomy, though it is not always the same for boys. Some men have no idea where the clitoris is. This article shows the importance of teaching men about the female body.
Hello Ashanti, I totally agree with that realistically nothing is 50/50 when it comes to a men and women, but I also feel that women don’t allow men to be men either. I watched my grandmother growing up doing everything while her husband sat down and read his newspaper until they got into an argument and that’s when he had no choice but to cook his own meals and iron his own clothes. Women are under valued.
Hi Ashanti, thanks for sharing. There is a lot of truth about men not truly going 50/50 with their partners. In one aspect of bearing children, men don’t have a choice to deliver a child, but women do, and because of that choice, they know creating life might be one of the most challenging tasks they will ever do in life. I believe that it is not what we should pressure men that they can never do enough because that way of thinking will lead to more debates with your partner. Finding a balance that will benefit you and your partner will help to show you that there is a 50/50 benefit.
Hey Ashanti,
You are absolutely right in my opinion and I also wish other men carried that mans mindset from tik tok to actually share the load with a woman and experience the work put in that is often under valued. Things are never 50/50 between men and women and it sucks that we cannot seem to achieve a truly fair playing field between genders. When we are all putting the work in just differently in some cases.