According to Allan Johnson, in a patriarchal society man who avoid vulnerability are more often than not seen as strong. Allan details, if men stay the same then men can continue to think of themselves as courageous and manly, without having to see their lack of courage for what it is. The problem with this limited way of expressing masculinity is what keeps patriarchy working. Men often default to what they know, which is to let females carry the burden of caring for the house, the kids, and the relationship. What happened to teamwork? The job is for men to begin to undo the imbalance, model alternative paths of masculinity. Be open in front of others, easier said than done. Take on the bulk of work typically designated as women work, or in experimenting with how to communicate with both women and men.