It is important to recognize patriarchy as a system and not individual identity because we need to examine the social norms and beliefs that reinforce the spaces for oppression to continuously happen.  It’s like giving tainted water to a community to drink and then when individuals become sick instead of blaming the water  just treating the individual without fixing the water source. Naturally people will continue to get sick because they are consuming something toxic to them. In order to fix things the “water needs to be clean to drink” and in the same ways that we will go through a process to  clean the water source, we will find out if the pipe system is the problem or filtration etc, we need to also as a society examine what behaviors and norms contribute to the toxicity that is patriarchy and the ways it oppresses woman and hurts men. On an individual level patriarchy can be a man withholding his emotions because crying isn’t for men. On an interpersonal level patriarchy is men telling other men or boys “wow you lost to a girl” as if losing to a girl is worse or more shameful then losing at all. Institutionally patriarchy  is regulating and policing how girls dress in schools and the Texas law against abortions beyond that influencing women to be submissive and the child rearers. Finally structural and cultural is relying on these expectations and a basis for respect. Like women need to be submissive and subordinate in order to gain protection from men against other men.In my personal life  I myself have both been hurt by and benefited from patriarchy.Growing up i went through a lot of shaming for expressing my masculinity.  In most spaces I’ve gotten resistance and some level of ostracized for the way I express my gender identity while still identifying as a woman. Men have threatened me and tried to force submission in my  interactions and the list goes on and on  but in other spaces  I have benefited from patriarchy and experienced a form of privilege when I was in certain spaces for example while with a feminine presenting person men have asked things like “oh that’s yours?” or “Tell your girl to chill” while giving me more respect and objectifying other women. I think it’s important to understand all aspects of patriarchy and how it influences individuals and work to unpack that within ourselves as well.