For Alok, moving beyond the gender binary is to be able to respect one another’s choice of whom we are and what we think of ourselves rather than letting gender binary tell us whether we are men or women. It is being comfortable in your own skin and being able to express who you are. Whether with clothes or actions. It is evolving and getting educated so we will not contribute to the discrimination given to all who society feels “do not exist.” I think that by authoring this book he does not outright say it but in many ways explains everything that contributes to the oppression of gender non-comforting, nonbinary and trans and telling us how one contributes to this, but also a path we can take to change what the “western world” sees as gender binary. Some ways that my gender identity went against binary norm while growing up and even now is my choice of wearing loose clothing. From the time I could remember my parents were not a huge fan of loose clothing they say people could not distinguish if you were a boy or a girl. Once I reached the age of 15, I started wearing baggy clothes because that is what made me feel most comfortable, but my parents did not think that way. At one point they thought I was gay because everyone was getting boyfriends and I only went out with my friends and was wearing loose clothing, Occasionally I would wear feminine clothing, but I would not say it made me feel uncomfortable. I would only dress femininely when I wanted to and wanted to dress for myself. My gender identity went against binary norms as soon as I started wearing clothing a female would not wear because it does not show their “gender,” or it shows a gender that society says they are not. Some ways I fit the binary norms is the sensitive and girly side of myself, I am extremely sensitive when watching a movies or TV shows I tend to stray away from unhappy endings because they leave me unsettle. As for my feminine side, I like the color pink and I am really attracted to jewelry and handbags, occasionally boots. I tend to show my feminine side when I need confidence and want, I get dressed for myself. Alok brought out many points that helped me understand how to move forward, be part of helping instead of ignoring the problem.