After watching the video, I did a lot of self reflection.
I experience privilege in many ways. I’m a cisgender, able-bodied person who was born in Puerto Rico – therefore meaning that I am automatically a U.S. citizen. Of course, the circumstances surrounding Puerto Rico’s status as a U.S. territory are troubling, but it still doesn’t take away the fact that upon moving to New York, I didn’t face any struggles in regards to my citizenship. I also have a roof over my head, access to food and clean water – mostly everything I need is accessible to me. I am also privileged enough to receive financial support from my family, and am pursuing an education.
I suppose I experience forms of oppression since I am a queer latinx woman. I have faced xenophobia in the past from white Americans, been sexually harassed, and have also experienced bigotry in many different forms. I have felt unsafe in many situations because of my identity, and while representation in media has gotten a lot better (more inclusive and diverse) over the years, I didn’t grow up with the figures I would’ve liked to have seen. This led to the rejection of my Puerto Rican culture as a child – I wanted to be just like Hannah Montana.
I only share my sexuality with a select few people when I’m comfortable, in special instances (like this, where there’s some form of anonymity or comradery), and I am not entirely publicly “out” – nor do I think I will ever be. I haven’t exactly had the nicest experiences when trusting some people.
Watching the video and doing the readings have helped me conjure up the following definitions of my own. One, oppression, meaning: the systematic act of purposefully inflicting harm upon, and controlling a specific group of people to keep the group from thriving. Two, privilege, meaning: a benefit that is accessible to only a specific individual or community.
I think that when faced with the phrase, “white privilege,” a lot of white people get defensive because they believe that it invalidates their struggles, and insists that they have easy lives. However, having white privilege doesn’t guarantee that you won’t have hardships – it simply means that the issues you would face as a white person would not happen because you’re white. Race would have nothing to do with it. On the other hand, for example, Black people face countless challenges that exist specifically because of their race – and these challenges were created purposefully. As a white person, you will not be racially profiled, you will not be seen or labeled as “other,” – you will not be targeted because of your race, and you will receive a plethora of advantages. That is what white privilege means.
Privilege also intersects in many ways, as well. It intersects with race, gender, sexuality, disability, wealth and class, etc. Everyone has a privilege of some kind, to some extent, whether they realize it or not. Acknowledging our own respective privileges, and realizing that not everyone is equipped with the same tools and resources, is a step that everyone needs to take.
Hi Paulina!
I am really impressed with your bravery and wanted to say thank you for sharing something so private with all of us. I am glad you recognize this as a safe space where you can speak freely about your sexuality. It is so important to go at your own pace, and I hope one day you will achieve coming out in a healthy and positive light. Aside from that, I thought your comment on white privilege was extremely valid- that people automatically get defensive because they can say “It doesn’t matter if I am white, my life is hard too!” This is irrelevant when so many people are systemically targeted because they are NOT white.
Thanks, Olivia :o) it’s people like you that make this a safe space!
Hi Paulina, some of the privileges you mentioned were ones we share in common but somehow totally flew over my head! For example being an american citizen, having financial support from parents, being cis-gender and also able-bodied. I can also one hundred percent second the point you made about growing up with little to no representation, even though it has gotten better in today’s world. The last point you made about the end about everyone having some sort of privilege is also true, although to be honest I was only able to see that after completing this excercise and really thinking about what privileges I have.
Hi Paulina,
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. It must be hard not being able to come out but I hope one day you will be able to come out. I am glad you can consider this a safe space for you to share your personal experiences with us.
Hi Nia,
Thank YOU for your kind words! =) I really appreciate it!!!
hi paulina i’m also a queer (half) latinx person! Nice to meet you
Love that this is a safe space for us all 🙂
Also i’ve had white friends try to deny white privilege because of different struggles they have in their lives. But you put it perfectly : “Having white privilege doesn’t guarantee that you won’t have hardships – it simply means that the issues you would face as a white person would not happen because you’re white.”
hi dylan!! =)
it’s nice to meet you too. i really am glad this is a safe space for us.
i hope we can talk more often! <3