I enjoy writing freely. Id like to talk about the misogyny in the black/latina community. As an afro-latina, I have witnessed this first hand. There is is large amount of men who are disrespecting their own kind, and it is making it harder to stay unified. At first, I never thought that the lyrics in songs or how we speak matters, but it does. We are too comfortable with allowing men to degrade us in songs and treat us badly because it’s part of “culture”. Many people disregard this issue because it is something that has gone on for decades. Personally, i’m tired. An article from this class stated that many black men in relationships oppress women and are comfortable doing it. Women wont speak up against it because of the sexual and economic benefits they are receiving from the relationship.
Focusing on the misogny in black/latina families, we’re also being degraded in ways we don’t realize. Growing up, I have always been told to act a certain way so i’m not “trashy”, which actually just meant i’m here to please men. Its hard to be a free in my identity when latin families enjoy regulating who you are so a man can like us. If I was too underdressed in my own home and men were over, I would have to cover up so I don’t look too “sexy” or not lady like. My point to this is there is internalized misogny in our homes. The boys get to call us hoes, dress how they want, act how they want, and have sex with who they want. The girls though, have to be highly regulated from a young age to appear a certain way to men. In relationships and in our upbringing, we have to stand up for ourselves instead of normalizing it because of “culture”.