To Alok Vaid-Menon moving  move beyond the gender binary mean that gender identities and expressions, but also states that there is nothing wrong with existence outside of the gender binary. This invalidates their identity and prevents them from getting the best possible medical care. Alok uses the word Cisgender a lot through out the book and his definition for it is that a person’s gender identity matches the male or female sex listed on the original birth certificate. Gender fluidity refers to the change over time in a person’s gender expression or identity, or both. This change can be of expression, but not of identity, or of identity, but not of expression. Or expression and identity can change together. Gender identification and the need for closure were associated with binary gender/gender beliefs, prejudice against non-binary people and opposition to the use of gender neutral pronouns. Policies aimed at eliminating gender/gender categories, but not policies advocating a third gender/gender category, were considered particularly unfair among those with strong gender identification. These findings are an important step in understanding the psychology of resistance to change around gender/sex binary systems.Gender attributions create a story about how a person should behave, what they are allowed to wear or wear, and how they express themselves. The punishment for nonconformity leads to an inextricable link between gender and shame. Vaid-Menon challenges well-known arguments against gender inequality and divides them into four categories: dismissal, impropriety, biology, and the slippery slope (fear of the consequences of acceptance). Bold headings provide an accessible navigation experience from scan to scan. The prose maintains a conversational tone that feels as intimate and vulnerable as talking to a best friend. At the same time, the author’s twists in moments of deep insight resonate with precision and poetry. In a reflection, they write: “The deadliest part of the human body is not the fist; is the eye What people see and how people see it has a lot to do with power”. Although this short essay speaks honestly about pain and injustice, it ends with encouragement and an invitation to a future that celebrates transformation. To binary people we can be respectful supporting and respecting non-binary people isn’t as hard as you think, even if you’re just getting to know them.You don’t need to understand what it means for someone to be non-binary to respect it. Some people haven’t heard much about non-binary genders or have a hard time understanding them, and that’s okay. But identities that some people don’t understand still deserve respect.Use whatever name someone asks you to use. This is one of the most critical aspects of respecting a non-binary person, as the name you use may not reflect their gender identity. Don’t ask anyone what his old name was.Try not to make assumptions about people’s genders. You can’t tell if someone is non-binary just by looking at them, just like you can’t tell if someone is transgender just by their looks.